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What Is Social Fitness? 7 Exercises for Stronger Relationships
Social fitness treats relationships like something worth maintaining. Here are seven small exercises you can fit into an ordinary week.
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Essays and practical guides on products, creativity, technology, and the relationships they can help us nurture.
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The Friendship Recession: How to Stop Drifting Apart
Adult friendships rarely end all at once. They fade through missed chances. Here is a practical way to push back against the friendship recession.
GuideStarlings
What Is a Personal CRM and How to Use One to Follow Up
A personal CRM helps you remember what matters about the people you care about and actually stay in touch. Here's what one does, how to use it for follow-ups, and how to get started for free.
StoryStarlings
Why Starlings Is a Friendship Tracker, Not a Notes App
Notes apps are great. But they don't know that the person in the note has a birthday next week, or that you haven't spoken in a month.
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How to remember what matters about the people you love
A simple system for capturing details, stories, and moments before they slip away — and surfacing them when they count.
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Why your personal CRM shouldn't be in the cloud
Your relationship data is some of the most sensitive information you have. Here's why keeping it local isn't paranoia — it's common sense.
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5 ways to be a better friend without becoming a robot
Using a system to track relationships sounds cold. Done right, it's the opposite — it frees you to show up fully when it matters.
GuideStarlings
The art of keeping in touch without losing your mind
You can't call everyone every week. But you also don't want to realize it's been eight months. Here's a cadence system that actually works.